How to Get Pregnant Quickly 101

How to Get Pregnant Quickly 101


I remember when my husband and I decided to start trying for our first baby.  I was over the mood excited and I couldn’t wait to see those double lines appear on that pregnancy test. If you know me by now, I am the most impatient person on the planet. I immediately started researching how I could conceive quickly. I looked at every fertility site I could get my hands on and soaked in all the information I could get.

It took 5 months of trying before I finally conceived my first daughter.  The second time around I was much more educated on fertility and ended up conceiving the very first month of trying.  I’d like to think that these methods helped with this result, but I’m sure there was some luck involved.

Please keep in mind that this will not work for everyone trying to conceive. These methods can boost your chances of getting pregnant, but not guarantee it.

Alrighty, here we go!

 

Get off Birth Control

First and foremost, get off birth control (if you are on it). Depending on the type of birth control you are on, it could take a few months before your body is ready for baby making.  If you are like me and got an IUD, you can start trying for a baby shortly after you take that sucker out.   

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Track Your Cycle

Tracking your cycle is probably the most important part of knowing when your fertile window is. You cannot get pregnant if you are not ovulating.  Knowing your cycle will help you pinpoint when you ovulate so you can maximize your chances of getting pregnant.

When I started tracking, I would count my cycle days. In a perfect world, ovulation occurs about 14 days after your first day of your period.  This is based on a typical 28-day cycle.  However, my typical cycle length was 30-32 days long, and ovulation occurs 18-20 days after.  Knowing this, I knew that to max my chances of getting pregnant I should be having sex on cycle days 16-21.  To verify the accuracy of my tracking and ovulation days, I did some other methods to backup that information such as:

  • Purchasing an Ovulation Test. Ovulation tests tell you if you are ovulating or not.  My favorite one is the Clearblue Advanced Digital Ovulation Test. This one comes 10 per pack, which is great because you will probably need to use more than one to pinpoint ovulation.
  • Take Your Temperature. Get a good oral thermometer, like the Basal Body Thermometer. All you have to do is take your temperature every morning before you get out of bed and write down what your temperature is.  You will notice that in the first half of your cycle your temperature will be lower, but after you ovulate your temperature will spike up a degree or so. The rise in temperature is from the releasing of extra progesterone in your body after ovulation. Once you see that spike, you know you ovulated the day before.  This is good to see what your pattern looks like and find out when your typical ovulation days are so you can prepare for the next time. To help with temperature tracking, I used an app called Fertility Friend.  This one was by far my favorite fertility app to use when I was trying to conceive.

 

 

  • Track your Mucus. Gross, I know, but when tracking your cycle your cervical mucus plays a very important role. Just before ovulation, your mucus will become more clear and watery.  This is nature’s way of helping the sperm survive and swim to the egg.  After you ovulate, your mucus will change to a “creamier” texture, almost resembling lotion.  Keeping track of these changes can help pinpoint when your fertile window is to optimize your chances of getting pregnant.

Healthy Diet 

Make sure you are taking care of yourself and putting your health first.  Your body is going to be the home to another human for 9 months, so eating right and preparing your body for what it is about to endure is critical. On top of that, a healthy, well balanced diet can make you more fertile. Eating foods rich in antioxidants can help improve fertility for both men and women. Good sources for this are fruits, veggies, nuts and grains.

While we are still on the diet and health topic, try to stay away from:

— Soda: Both diet and regular soda have been linked to lower fertility.

— Trans Fats: Trans fats have been associated with an increased risk of ovulatory infertility. A study from Harvard School of Public Health found that women who ate trans fats had more ovulation-related fertility problems than women who avoided it.

— Alcohol: Alcohol depletes your body of vitamin B and can decrease your ovarian reserve, which can contribute to infertility.

— Mercury: Cut back on high-mercury fish while trying for a baby. Mercury can build up stores in your body, which could harm the development of your  baby’s nervous system when you do get pregnant.

Take Supplements

I’m a big fan of getting most, if not all, your nutrients through food, but if you think you need a supplement boost, some good solutions are:

— Prenatal Vitamins: I took Vitafusion Prenatal Gummy VitaminsThese were my favorite because they tasted good and gave me everything I needed to prepare for a new resident in my body. I took them all the way through breastfeeding.  

–Vitex: If you have irregular periods, tracking your cycle can be a nightmare. Nature’s Way Vitex is a natural herb that helps women regulate their menstrual and hormonal balance, making it easier to track your cycles to optimize conception.

FertilAid for Women: This supplement supports overall reproductive health. It’s packed with antioxidants and vitamins that support fertility.  This also supports cycle regulation just like Vitex. 

Have Sex!

Probably the most fun (and important) part of trying to conceive! Once you learn how to track your cycle and figured out roughly when your fertile window is, the next step is to get them swimmers to the egg! Try having sex a few days before ovulation and a couple days after (in case you ovulate sooner or later than usual that month). Having sex every day during your fertile window is ideal, but every other day works too since sperm can live inside you up to 5 days.

As for position tips, to get deeper penetration (sperm closer to the cervix) try missionary or even doggy style. “Woman on top” is fine too, but gravity tends to work against you in those positions. Once the deed is done, to make sure you give those swimmers enough time to do their thing, lay in bed with your hips arched up for a for a few minutes.

 

Don’t Stress!

Did you know that if you’re stressed, it can actually hinder your chances of conceiving?  Stress negatively influences your fertility because it can disturb your hormone balances that control normal ovulation cycles. Studies have shown that the more stressed a woman is, the longer it takes her to get pregnant.

A few ways to de-stress are:

— Exercising: Exercising is one of the best stress relievers. Physical activity produces endorphins (the feel-good hormones). Endorphins are chemicals in the brain that act as natural painkillers, improve sleep and reduce stress.

— Breathe Deeply: Another de-stress and anxiety remedy that produces endorphins.

— Take a bath: Taking a bath with some nice candles and music is incredibly stress relieving.

— Be Social: Get out of the house and enjoy other people’s company.  Being social and feeling connected is important for reducing stress. Socializing can decrease anxiety and make you feel more confident in handling stresses in your life.   

Seek Medical Assistance  

Unfortunately, there are women who will still have a harder time getting pregnant, even after trying everything they could do.  Statistics say that 1 out of every 10 couples will experience infertility. If you go a year with no luck, or if you are age 35 and older, it’s time to consult your doctor to see what the next steps should be.

 

19 Perfect Baby Shower Gift Ideas

19 Perfect Baby Shower Gift Ideas

I am going to go out on a limb here and say that you are reading those post because you were invited to a baby shower and have no idea what to give as a present.  Or maybe you do know, but just want to find better ideas than the clique (blankets, binkies, cute outfits, etc.).  Don’t disregard those though; they come in handy for new moms and dads. However, if you want to stand out and/or give a gift that is super awesome, here are some great ideas.

Prenatal Massage

Yes, it is a baby shower, but Mom still needs pampering too. Coming from experience, I would have died of happiness if someone got this for me at my baby shower!

Diapers & Wipes

Yes, this is clique, but these things are expensive and that baby is going to need A LOT of both.  If you go this route, go with sizes 1-2 diapers

Baby Bathtub + Accessories

Not too expensive, but a newborn need for sure! If you want to be creative, you can fill the bathtub with bath stuff like baby shampoo, baby towels, lotion, baby toothbrush, hairbrush, baby ear cleaners, diaper cream, etc. 

Nightlight

Newborns tend to sleep in the same room as the parent(s) for a while, but when/if the time comes that the baby graduates to their own crib, a nightlight is a cute room addition.  Plus, it will help Mom/Dad with middle of the night navigation when the baby cries.

Stroller and/or Car Seat

I got this combo at my baby shower and I was extremely thankful. Strollers and car seats are not cheap, but they are a need.  If you get this as a gift be prepared for a lot of thank yous and hugs.

Professional Newborn Photoshoot

I would have LOVED to get this as a gift.  Newborn shoots are pretty expensive though.  I paid $500 for mine, but the pictures are phenomenal and I would do it all over again without question.  If you don’t want to spend that much then that is totally fine, but it would be a very meaningful and sentimental gift for the family.

Formula (if not breastfeeding)

If mommy-to-be is not planning on breastfeeding, then get a big can of formula as a gift (or part of a gift). Formula is expensive and typically a baby will go through a big can a week. It will be extremely helpful to cut that cost down by getting some for the baby. FYI: Ask what kind they want to use first before buying. 

Gift Cards

Go ahead and say this is a copout gift.  But seriously, gift cards are great.  Just make sure it’s a gift card to some place actually useful, like Target or Walmart.  You can also get one of those prepaid Visa cards that can be used almost anywhere. 

3D/4D Ultrasound

I did this for both my pregnancies and it was such a great experience to get a first glimpse at their perfect little faces.  The best time to get these done it between 24 and 34 weeks, so you can either wait until the baby shower or give your gift early. (Recommend giving it early). Just for the record, I paid $120 each time I got one of these done. It was worth every dime.

Baby Clothes

I would advise to stay away from this gift idea because other people at the baby shower are probably going to get clothes (mostly because those are the most fun things to shop for). BUT if you insist on getting an outfit, stay away from the newborn sizes.  Go with a 3M or 6M size.

Pedicure for Mom

This is another gift I WISH I got at my baby shower.  This is a great idea, considering pregnant mothers tend to have sore and/or swollen feet towards the end of pregnancy. 

Baby Monitor

Again, not very cheap if you get a good one, but they are a need for sure.  If you go this route, get one with the camera screen.

Swaddles

Tons of newborns love being swaddled, so this is a nice gift if you are assuming that the baby will like that kind of thing. However, both of my kids hated being swaddled, so I had to give all mine away.  Either way, it’s a nice gesture, but just be warned it may never be used.

Diaper Bin

One of the first lessons I learned being a new mom is that I needed a diaper bin if I wanted to save my nose from the horrible stench of baby poo. Putting the dirty diapers in plastic bags and throwing them in the normal trashcan was not enough to cover that odor. A diaper bin is super useful and I can guarantee they will be thanking you for it.

Diaper Bag

So this one is tricky, because most parents like to pick out their own diaper bag (I know I did). But it is something they are going to need to leave the house with a baby.  Best bet for this one is to ask them to pick out a diaper bag on their own and that you will pay for it.  That way they get what they want and it’s still a gift from you. 

“Lazy Man” Gift Basket

If you really have no idea what to get or have no time, Amazon will have you covered!  Just search for “baby shower gift baskets”, and voila! You got yourself an awesome gift that will be delivered to your doorstep. To save you a searching endeavor, my favorite gift basket for a boy is the New Baby Boy Gift Basket and Simply Baby Girl Necessities for a girl.

Memory Book

Clique to the max, but it is a nice gift to give and receive.  Sentimental stuff always pull on heartstrings. Pearhead First 5 Years Chevron Baby Memory Book is by far the best one.

Belly Stickers

I loved doing those monthly baby pictures with the belly stickers!  It’s corny and may embarrass your kid when they are older, but it is cool to see your baby grow each month during that first year.  Quick links: Girl Stickers and Boy Stickers.

Hand Sanitizer

Cheap, but oh so necessary.  Add this item to whatever else you plan on getting as a “cherry on top of the cake”.

There are so many other things you can get as a baby shower gift. Bibs, toys, books, burp cloths, etc.  If I were to ever have any more kids in the future, the list above is what I would have on my baby shower registry for sure, emphasis on the prenatal massage!

10 Ways Your Body Changes AFTER Pregnancy

10 Ways Your Body Changes After Pregnancy

Your body goes through tremendous changes when you get pregnant. But what about afterwards?  I don’t intend to scare you, but here are some of the typical postpartum changes that happen to your body.

Hair

Remember how thick and luscious your hair got during pregnancy?  Well that is all about to fall out. Don’t be alarmed when clumps of hair start coming out a few weeks after delivery. All those raging hormones from pregnancy are gone and now your body has to compensate for it by losing the extra hair.  You will not go bald though, I promise.

Skin

Good news here is if you had acne during pregnancy, it should start so clear up after delivery. Bad news
is some moms may develop a red rash around their mouth and chin area.  You could also develop dry skin (I did).  Don’t worry though, these things should go away within a few weeks. 

Breasts

The breast changes were a hard one for me to get over. Before kids, I had perky, firm breasts.  After kids, they turned into deflated balloons.  It took some time (like 3 years) to accept that my breasts will never be the same as they before.  It helped to remind myself that it is perfectly normal and okay to have these changes. Just for the record, if you truly cannot get over the changes, you can always get a breast augmentation.  Just be prepared to spend a pretty penny for that surgery (7-9k).

Vaginal/Pelvic Pain

This one should be obvious if you just got done pushing a 6-8 pounder out of there.  Jokes aside, this one really does hurt for a
bit after birth. You will be tender, especially if you had to get stitches.  If you are breastfeeding, you may experience vaginal dryness as well. If you are like me, you may experience what is called Postpartum Pelvic Girdle Pain (PPGP).  This is when a gap forms between your pelvic bones and stretches the ligaments, usually caused if the baby’s head is pushing down a certain way during birth. My doctor told me that the pain from this can last anywhere from 3-8 months. I ofcourse got the longer sentence on this one (pain went away at 8 months). If this is something you are concerned about, make sure to talk to your doctor.

Emotional

Postpartum emotional changes was something I read about often, but I didn’t know how hard it would hit me once I was holding a tiny baby in my arms.  I’m pretty sure I went through every emotion in the book, more so with my first baby than my second.  I found myself being in extreme bliss, joy and happiness to being completely overwhelmed, angry, sad and terrified all in one.  I had what I thought were the baby blues, but it turns out it was full-blown postpartum depression (both times).  I won’t get into the details of my own experience with postpartum depression in this post, but I will say if you feel like you may have this PLEASE reach out for help. 

Getting back on track, just know you will feel everything. Sad to happy and everything in-between. I promise that you are not going crazy.  You are mom trying to adjust to this HUGE life change.  Your body is also trying to regulate itself to being a solo resident again.  Give yourself time, love and patience. You will get through it.

Stomach

Oh the stomach. The problem area for many women even before having kids.  Your stomach just went through tremendous
changes in the last 9 months (give or take). 

  • If you just gave birth, changes are you can still feel your enlarged uterus just above your pelvic bone.  This should go back to normal size in about 6 weeks.
  • In addition, the linea nigra (random brown line in the middle of your belly) will still be there, but should fade over time. 
  • You cannot forget about the stretch marks. If you didn’t get those you are one of the lucky ones! A cool thing about the stretch marks is they will also fade over time and/or get lighter in color. You can also use H-Stretch Marks Formula to help with this. It worked wonders for me!
  • A strange change that may or may not happen is called diastasis recti.  This is when the adnominal muscles that usually meet in the center of your stomach separate from the pressure of your humungo uterus when you were pregnant. You may see a bulge in the middle of your stomach from this. Your doctor will be able to give you the proper direction to take if you have this postpartum “side effect”.
  • This one is obvious, but if you are the 1 out of 3 moms who deliver via C-section, you will have a cesarean scar just above your pelvic bone.   Wear it proudly!
  • Last point I will make is your skin.  Your skin will be lose in your mid-section and chances are this will not go away.  Typically, this isn’t even noticeable unless you are activity pulling at your skin to see how far it will stretch out now. 

I will say your stomach will never be exactly as it was before, but if you do some abdominal exercises,it will help tone up that area overtime. No matter what though, self-acceptance is the key. Be proud of what that
stomach of yours just created!

Incontinence

Yep, this is a thing.  Now that your baby isn’t putting pressure on your bladder anymore, you are probably going pee less often. However, you may find that you “leak” here and there after coughing or sneezing.  The muscles around your bladder have been weakened, which make it hard to control the flow. It will probably take 3-6 months (or longer) to regain bladder control, but to help speed up the process, try doing Kegels (3 sets of 30 a day).  In the meantime, get used to sneezing and coughing while crossing your legs.

Energy levels

This one is a bit odd considering you will be (or already are) sleep deprived taking care of your new baby all day and night, but many women say they have increased energy levels in the first 4-6 weeks after giving birth. For me personally, I felt more energized than ever, even though I was running on 3-4 hours of sleep every night. I’m going to guess it had something to do with my heighten senses and fear/excitement of being a new mom.

Sweating

You may experience night sweats after giving birth. The reason is because your body does not need all the extra fluids it was hoarding before when you were pregnant. A way for your body it release it is through perspiration. This won’t last too long, but it can be annoying.

Back pain

Your back is going to be taking the brunt of your body weight for a while until your adnominal muscles get back up to par again. Because you will be putting the extra weight on your back, you might have some back pain. Don’t worry too much. This side effect usually goes away in about 6 weeks after birth as your abdomen strengthens up again.

As you can see, there are many body changes that happen postpartum. They may sound bad or terrifying, but it is nothing that you can’t handle with a little bit of patience and self-love. From physical to mental, embrace those changes as you enter a new chapter of your life. Your body went through amazing transformation and it’s all just proof that you participated in the miracle of life.

20 Gender Prediction Tests to Try

 20 Gender Prediction Tests to Try

Disclaimer! These are wives’ tales.  They are merely for fun. In reality, these predictions have a 50% chance of being right, so take it for what it is. Regardless if being accurate or not, it is certainly entertaining to see the results! 

So, are you having a boy or a girl?

Cravings

Craving sweets? That is a sign you are having a girl. Cravings salty and/or protein? Prepare to be a boy mom!  I craved protein and sweets, so I guess that means I was just pregnant. 

The Garlic Test

Eat tons of garlic. If you do not smell like garlic afterwards for a few days then you are carrying a girl.  FYI, this one was WAY too gross for me to try. 

Morning Sickness

If you are suffering from excessive morning sickness, that means you are carrying a girl.  My personal experience with this one is mixed. My first daughter I was sick the entire pregnancy.  My second daughter I was not sick at all. 

Pregnancy Glow?

If you are “glowing”, aka have a bright complexion and glossy beautiful hair, you are said to be having a boy. If you look like a hot mess, aka dry hair and an acne face, you may be having a girl.  This held true for me.  Both pregnancies I definitely didn’t have a glow.

Partner’s Weight Gain

In the book of tales, if your partner is gaining weight with you, that is a sign that you are carrying a girl. This was not true for me.  My husband actually lost weight both times. 

Moody vs Mellow

Moody? You are probably having a girl. More chill/mellow? Boy. This held true for me.  I was a moody mess both times.

Carrying High vs Low

According to not science, carrying high means you are having a girl, while carrying low means you are having a boy. I carried high both times, so this held true for me.

The Ring Test

Tie a ring on a string and dangle it over your belly. If the ring moves in a circular motion then you could be having a girl. If it is swinging back and forth then it means you are having a boy.  Mine swung back and forth both times, so this didn’t hold “true” for me.

Heart Rate

During prenatal visits, your doctor should be checking the baby’s heart rate. If the heartbeat is beating faster than 140 beats per minute then you are said to be carrying a girl.  This held true for me both times.

Chinese Gender Chart

This was my favorite one to do! It was correct with my first, but incorrect for my second. There are many charts online, so try out a few to see if you get the same prediction each time. 

The Cabbage Test

This one I didn’t try, but what you are supposed to do is boil red cabbage and mix the water with your urine (eww). If the water turns pink then you are having a girl. If the water turns purple then it is a boy.

The Baking Soda Test

This is another test I didn’t try.  I preferred to stay away from the tests that involved mixing stuff with my pee. For this test, take two tablespoons of baking soda and mix it with your urine. If the mixture fizzes, it’s a boy. No fizz means a girl.

SneakPeek Early Gender Prediction DNA Test

I didn’t try this one either, but it does say to be 99.1% accurate. Unlike urine-based gender predictor tests, SneakPeek uses a blood sample from the mother to test the DNA. You can find out as early as 8 weeks into pregnancy if you having a boy or girl. 

Ramzi Method

If you have an early ultrasound, ask the technician which side of the uterus the placenta is attached to. If the baby is on the left side it means girl, right side means boy. This method is said to be 97% accurate, but it was wrong for me both times. I guess I was just part of the 3%.

The Linea Nigra

You know that dark line you get in the middle of your belly? If that line goes above your belly button, you are having a boy. If it stops below your belly button, you are having a girl. This held true for me both times.

Weight Gain Placement

If you are carrying all your extra weight in the front, then that means it’s a boy. If the weight is all over your body, then that means it’s a girl.  I carried all in the front both times, so this was not true for me.

Feet

Cold feet? You might be having a boy. Warm feet you might be having a girl.  This was not true for me both times.  I’ve always had cold feet even before pregnancy.

Sleeping

If you prefer to sleep on your left side, you are carrying a boy. The right side is a girl. I always sleep on my left side, so this was not true for me.

Clumsy vs Graceful

You might be carrying a boy if you are clumsier than usual.  The problem with this one is I am always clumsy, so this was not true for me at all!

Urine Color

Bright yellow urine means boy. I didn’t really pay attention to this one much.  My pee color was different all the time because it really depended on how much water I drank. 

Well there ya have it! I’m sure there many more predictions out there, but here is a list to at least get you started during your waiting game. Again, these are just for fun. Please don’t take it too seriously. If every single one of these predictions tell you that you are having a boy, don’t go out and buy all boy things.  You could still have a little girl cooking in there.  

Don’t say I didn’t warn you!