10 Ways Your Life Changes When You Have Kids
It’s no secret that your life changes once you have a baby. Actually, my entire life has changed in some way or another, but here are the top 10 ways that becoming a Mom has changed my life.
What is Sleep?
You have a whole new definition of the word exhausted. Getting a good night’s sleep and feeling rested in the morning is a thing of the past. The baby stage is particularly hard since they tend to get up frequently, but even my 3 year old gets up often from bad dreams. “Sleeping in” is also something that is long gone. Why do kids love getting up at the crack of dawn? All I can say is thank goodness for coffee and Simply Skin Vitamin OIl.
I now have a new appreciation for my own Mom. She changed my diapers, stayed up with me at night, sacrificed a lot of herself for me and always put my needs before her own. As a child/teenager I often overlooked those things. Now I have a much clearer image of what her life was like when I was growing up and I am so appreciative for all she has done.
Your daily routine is going to change, probably a lot. You might have to wake up earlier and go to bed later. You might have to plan dinner earlier so you can squeeze in bath time. Your once hour long showers turn into quick 5 minute ones. It might be hectic for a while, but you will get into a new routine that works for you and your family. It’s like taking on a new job. You will be nervous, confused and a little uncomfortable at first but over time you will get in a routine and everything will become easier.
It’s the Little Things
The little things in life matter more now. Who knew that painting rocks or picking flowers could bring so much joy? You now see things through the eyes of a child and it may even remind you of your own childhood. Some of my best memories as a child were not things that cost a lot of money or involved a huge vacation. They were things like going mushroom picking with my Grandfather and going for bike rides with my Dad. Those things helped shape my life and created memories that I will cherish forever. Ever since becoming a Mom I now see more than ever that the little things really do matter the most.
Kids will test your patience on a daily basis and sometimes you will lose your S.H.I.T. You are human and have your limits. Even though that will happen, overall you will become much more patient than you ever thought you could be. You learn to go with the flow and take one day at a time. You will master the art of staying calm in the middle of a tantrum and not losing your cool when your child refuses to eat everything you cook them. And let’s not forget about potty training; nothing is more of a patience tester than trying to potty train a stubborn child! When you are put in situations where you would normally scream but instead remain calm and collected is when you will really see this change.
The old saying is true; you do lose a lot of your friends once you have kids. The ones who promised to visit you after your baby is born never do and the ones who use to invite you to go out now stopped. But don’t think of this as a bad thing. It is a new chapter in your life and not everyone is meant to be in it. The friends who still stick around and are still there for you after you become a Mom are the ones you should keep close to you. You may even create new friendships with other Moms!
Things that use to matter to me don’t as much anymore. I don’t care about looking perfect before leaving the house anymore. Can you believe I use to do my hair and makeup just to go to Walmart?! Money I use to blow on clothes is now being saved for my kids college funds. A spotless house is no longer the top of my list of priorities. Chores will always be there, but your kids will only be small for such a short amount of time. I would rather spend that precious time with them.
Less Time For Yourself
You will cherish alone time more because you won’t get it very often. Peeing and showering alone is a luxury now. Time you used to spend web surfing or watching TV is now being used to care and play with your kids. Even though I miss time alone, I wouldn’t trade this life of chaos for the world.
You’re Scared Of Everything
The world seems more like a dangerous place now. Those protective Mama instincts come in full effect and you become hypersensitive to everything that could possibly harm your child. People you used just pass by are now on the corner of your eye. You become much more cautious while driving. You may even notice yourself saying “be careful” 50+ times a day now.
Everything Takes Longer
Everything takes longer to do because it’s not just you anymore. Leaving the house is a process that becomes more than just grabbing your car keys and leaving. Going grocery shopping takes nearly double the amount of time than it used to. All I can say about this is give yourself enough leeway time and always expect the unexpected, like your baby having a massive blowout the moment you pull out of the driveway.
Yes, your life changes when you have kids. Some of those changes are hard to deal with and others are eye openers on what actually matters in your life and what doesn’t. Life will be different, but welcome these changes and embrace this new chapter of your life. It is quite beautiful.